How to be Successful? [23 Keys to Success in Life]
It was the first time in my life that I realized how important is what you see or don’t see out of the window.
Not just the window of your house, but the symbolic window too, the perspective you get or don’t get.
Sofie didn’t have dreams; she had hopes and needs, but not dreams.
Dreaming allows you to see into the future; lets you imagine how great you can be and how to get there. Dreams are motivating and inspire you to choose the best version of your destiny.
It sounds obvious. However, you might be surprised how many people are drifting through life without a sense of direction or roads to take.
Strive for a win-win outcome
Making people feel important is one of the most powerful secrets to influencing people.
How to be Successful? [23 Keys to Success in Life]
Carmen Jacob
June 3, 2018
Success
A few years ago I met Sofie, a woman living on a council estate in London. She had two teenage children, a husband, and a dog.
“We were pretty happy until five years ago when Jeff had an accident that left him unable to work. Ever since we are living on his disability pension and my modest salary,” she said.
“I lived on coins all my life, and I’m tired of it,” she said.
“What do you mean, living on coins?” I asked
“To use any utilities: electricity or water, we have to put coins in the meter. I don’t want my children to grow up as Jeff and I did. I want a different life for them, but I feel stuck, and now, we are about to lose the apartment because we don’t have enough money for the rent.”
bee-yellowThe council estate was a complex of U-shaped buildings with a concrete paved courtyard in the middle, quite grim to be honest.
Sofie took me to the balcony and said:
“This is the view of my life,” and pointed to an apartment in the opposite building “my parents live there, Jeff’s parents live a few floors up; we grow up here. My whole family lives here: my sister, my brother in law, us, and our parents.”
It was the first time in my life that I realized how important is what you see or don’t see out of the window.
Not just the window of your house, but the symbolic window too, the perspective you get or don’t get.
At that moment I felt so privileged for the place where I grew up. It was a tiny apartment (not even half of Sofie’s apartment), I didn’t have my room, nor my own desk, nor my own closet, but I had a window!
I saw green fields, hills, and a river. My perspective in life wasn’t constrained by the walls of our apartment.
window-viewMy father was an avid reader, and our house was full of books, another window to many different worlds.
We were not rich, but I did not know that Sofie’s world existed. I did not know that what I have is one of the most precious things in life: a perspective that allows you to dream.
Sofie didn’t have dreams; she had hopes and needs, but not dreams.
That is how your success in life starts: with a dream!
Sofie lost the apartment; then she moved out of London; she has now a good, well-paid job; Jeff, as well, has a part time job and together, they are building many dreams for the future.
Your success in life starts with a dream!
How to be successful in life
How to Be Successful - 23 Keys to Success in Life
1. Start with a dream
dreamingDreaming allows you to see into the future; lets you imagine how great you can be and how to get there. Dreams are motivating and inspire you to choose the best version of your destiny.
2. Define what you want
know-what-you-wantIf you take random actions, you get random results. Is it not?
Know what you want and make a doable plan of action to get there.
It sounds obvious. However, you might be surprised how many people are drifting through life without a sense of direction or roads to take.
What you want is not always straightforward. If that is the case, begin with those things you feel that are missing from your life. Start with necessities and then, go up to your desires.
Make a plan of action for your needs and wants. Follow it, step by step; be prepared to stand up again if you fall. Celebrate even those moments when the result is not exactly what you wanted because that means that you are moving forward – you know better what works for you and what doesn’t.
Define what you want and create the desire to get there.
3. Keep your mind switched on positive
What is the result of your thought?
Are your thoughts the beginning of something positive for you or the end of it?
Positive thinking is a skill. Therefore, if you don’t have it yet, you can learn it.
girl-smilingI guess you don’t live in a bubble. Many things are happening that are out of your control, and a part of those things are not good things. However, the majority of bad, unfortunate things have an upside too. Keeping your mind switched on positive means to search, notice, acknowledge and celebrate the good part of things and people.
Wherever you look, there are beautiful things and ugly ones. What do you choose to notice and emphasize the most are determining the chain of thoughts you have: a positive chain or a negative one.
You don’t live in a bubble. Life happens even when you stay still. Is it raining? Great, the tree you planted will grow and thrive. Did one of your friends get out of your life for no apparent reason? That means room for a new, more compatible, friend.
Remember that whatever happens has an upside: search for it and you will find it, it is right in front of you.
Language patterns
Change the way you speak to yourself and others. Use positive and encouraging words.
For example:
“Remember to do [that]” compared to “Don’t forget to do [that]”
“The way I tried doesn’t work, tomorrow I will do it differently” compared to “I’m a failure”
“I will thrive in spite of my past” compared to “My past always keeps me down”
“I have three amazing friends” compared to “Most people are mean”
4. Live with integrity
Keep your word
Be honest, straightforward, assertive and genuine
Correct your mistakestruth
Step over your vanity and fear and offer your appreciation to those that deserve it
Strive for a win-win outcome
Be true to your standards, morals, and values
Apply the same standard to yourself as to others
5. Make people feel important
bouquetA tiny bit of our desire to feel important is a matter of vanity. However, the biggest part comes from our need to feel useful, accepted, valued and memorable.
Who wants to be invisible? Who wants to be left out? Who wants to be small and insignificant? I guess, no one!
Making people feel important is one of the most powerful secrets to influencing people. There is no success without collaboration and there no collaboration without trust, mutual respect, and acceptance.
Make people feel important and amplify your power of influence, win trust and respect and you will become important to them as well.
Who are the people that you like the most? Those that like you back! Who are the most influential people in your life? Those who make you feel good about yourself; those who make you feel important. Is it not?
6. Empower others
Success means almost nothing if you have no one to whom you can share it.
helpFor virtually every bad stuff in your life, there is a specialist that can help you to get through it. However, there are no experts for sharing success and happiness. Therefore, it is down to you to help people to grow alongside you. It is down to you to empower people to improve themselves for their benefit and yours. It is down to you lift people up to meet your standards.
A leader knows that success comes from having the best team. Right?
7. Apply what you learn
Don’t be a knowledge hoarder and wait endlessly for the right time, more resources, more information, the perfect conditions and an external push to start your journey.
Success is a journey and what you have and who you are today are enough to get started!
Should I mention that hoarding knowledge and information can lead to mental paralysis?
How to be Successful? [23 Keys to Success in Life]
Carmen Jacob
June 3, 2018
Success
A few years ago I met Sofie, a woman living on a council estate in London. She had two teenage children, a husband, and a dog.
“We were pretty happy until five years ago when Jeff had an accident that left him unable to work. Ever since we are living on his disability pension and my modest salary,” she said.
“I lived on coins all my life, and I’m tired of it,” she said.
“What do you mean, living on coins?” I asked
“To use any utilities: electricity or water, we have to put coins in the meter. I don’t want my children to grow up as Jeff and I did. I want a different life for them, but I feel stuck, and now, we are about to lose the apartment because we don’t have enough money for the rent.”
bee-yellowThe council estate was a complex of U-shaped buildings with a concrete paved courtyard in the middle, quite grim to be honest.
Sofie took me to the balcony and said:
“This is the view of my life,” and pointed to an apartment in the opposite building “my parents live there, Jeff’s parents live a few floors up; we grow up here. My whole family lives here: my sister, my brother in law, us, and our parents.”
It was the first time in my life that I realized how important is what you see or don’t see out of the window.
Not just the window of your house, but the symbolic window too, the perspective you get or don’t get.
At that moment I felt so privileged for the place where I grew up. It was a tiny apartment (not even half of Sofie’s apartment), I didn’t have my room, nor my own desk, nor my own closet, but I had a window!
I saw green fields, hills, and a river. My perspective in life wasn’t constrained by the walls of our apartment.
window-viewMy father was an avid reader, and our house was full of books, another window to many different worlds.
We were not rich, but I did not know that Sofie’s world existed. I did not know that what I have is one of the most precious things in life: a perspective that allows you to dream.
Sofie didn’t have dreams; she had hopes and needs, but not dreams.
That is how your success in life starts: with a dream!
Sofie lost the apartment; then she moved out of London; she has now a good, well-paid job; Jeff, as well, has a part time job and together, they are building many dreams for the future.
Your success in life starts with a dream!
How to be successful in life
How to Be Successful - 23 Keys to Success in Life
1. Start with a dream
dreamingDreaming allows you to see into the future; lets you imagine how great you can be and how to get there. Dreams are motivating and inspire you to choose the best version of your destiny.
2. Define what you want
know-what-you-wantIf you take random actions, you get random results. Is it not?
Know what you want and make a doable plan of action to get there.
It sounds obvious. However, you might be surprised how many people are drifting through life without a sense of direction or roads to take.
What you want is not always straightforward. If that is the case, begin with those things you feel that are missing from your life. Start with necessities and then, go up to your desires.
Make a plan of action for your needs and wants. Follow it, step by step; be prepared to stand up again if you fall. Celebrate even those moments when the result is not exactly what you wanted because that means that you are moving forward – you know better what works for you and what doesn’t.
Define what you want and create the desire to get there.
3. Keep your mind switched on positive
What is the result of your thought?
Are your thoughts the beginning of something positive for you or the end of it?
Positive thinking is a skill. Therefore, if you don’t have it yet, you can learn it.
girl-smilingI guess you don’t live in a bubble. Many things are happening that are out of your control, and a part of those things are not good things. However, the majority of bad, unfortunate things have an upside too. Keeping your mind switched on positive means to search, notice, acknowledge and celebrate the good part of things and people.
Wherever you look, there are beautiful things and ugly ones. What do you choose to notice and emphasize the most are determining the chain of thoughts you have: a positive chain or a negative one.
You don’t live in a bubble. Life happens even when you stay still. Is it raining? Great, the tree you planted will grow and thrive. Did one of your friends get out of your life for no apparent reason? That means room for a new, more compatible, friend.
Remember that whatever happens has an upside: search for it and you will find it, it is right in front of you.
Language patterns
Change the way you speak to yourself and others. Use positive and encouraging words.
For example:
“Remember to do [that]” compared to “Don’t forget to do [that]”
“The way I tried doesn’t work, tomorrow I will do it differently” compared to “I’m a failure”
“I will thrive in spite of my past” compared to “My past always keeps me down”
“I have three amazing friends” compared to “Most people are mean”
4. Live with integrity
Keep your word
Be honest, straightforward, assertive and genuine
Correct your mistakestruth
Step over your vanity and fear and offer your appreciation to those that deserve it
Strive for a win-win outcome
Be true to your standards, morals, and values
Apply the same standard to yourself as to others
5. Make people feel important
bouquetA tiny bit of our desire to feel important is a matter of vanity. However, the biggest part comes from our need to feel useful, accepted, valued and memorable.
Who wants to be invisible? Who wants to be left out? Who wants to be small and insignificant? I guess, no one!
Making people feel important is one of the most powerful secrets to influencing people. There is no success without collaboration and there no collaboration without trust, mutual respect, and acceptance.
Make people feel important and amplify your power of influence, win trust and respect and you will become important to them as well.
Who are the people that you like the most? Those that like you back! Who are the most influential people in your life? Those who make you feel good about yourself; those who make you feel important. Is it not?
6. Empower others
Success means almost nothing if you have no one to whom you can share it.
helpFor virtually every bad stuff in your life, there is a specialist that can help you to get through it. However, there are no experts for sharing success and happiness. Therefore, it is down to you to help people to grow alongside you. It is down to you to empower people to improve themselves for their benefit and yours. It is down to you lift people up to meet your standards.
A leader knows that success comes from having the best team. Right?
7. Apply what you learn
Don’t be a knowledge hoarder and wait endlessly for the right time, more resources, more information, the perfect conditions and an external push to start your journey.
Success is a journey and what you have and who you are today are enough to get started!
Should I mention that hoarding knowledge and information can lead to mental paralysis?
Too much unused and untested knowledge can leave you confused and overwhelmed.
The most successful people are those who learn one way of doing something and then go with it; learning more and improving along the way because (you see?) nothing is perfect, and the unexpected is always around the corner.
Learn and then apply, wait no more, start your success journey today!
Yes, it is good to be present in the now; yet, success doesn’t come that quickly. Therefore, invest in your future because there is no point in feeling accomplished only now and then. Strive for a long-term success.
Has it happened to you to know something well, to be very skilled at it and successful only to discover that you don’t enjoy what you are doing?
It happened to me and, to be frank, I was disappointed and discouraged. I felt as if all those years spent on it went to waste; and that I’ve invested too much in it to stop and do something else.
Therefore, I cut my losses and moved on, and now I’m delighted that I did.
However, pay attention that life doesn’t give you endless opportunities and chances to start over.
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